Category: romance scam

Warning Fake Dating Requests

The radio station received three fake dating requests in one day.

From Dinara, Tatyana and Ksenia.

Content such as

“Hi. How have you been? What is your name? Where are you from?

My name is Ksenia. I like to chat with you. What do you think of that?  

That one was a short message and had an email address supposedly for Ksenia so the email recipient could reply and start up an online relationship no doubt leading to a scam.

The other two messages were basically adverts for a Russian dating service which again leads to a scam.

e.g. Hello sweetie.

How does it feel to be a loved one. I wish to feel it someday.

I am Tatyana, an educated middle class girl from Bryansk, Russia.

I am a doctor and earn a decent living. I am hard working and honest to my profession. Which implies I don’t have much free time. So I want to tell you straightaway that I am in search of my life partner.

The email leads up to a link to a Russian dating site

This is a long winded way of getting someone to access a dating website.

Is the dating website real?

Is there actually a girl named Tatyana ?

We don’t know, but if you want to join a dating site then pick one in your home country with an excellent reputation as there are too many scam dating sites out there.

If you have any experiences with scammers, spammers or time-waster do let me know, by email.

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Nancy’s Loss

Nancy’s story is about a romance scammer who took advantage of her vulnerability following the death of her husband.

Nancy says:-

I was getting used to the impact of losing my husband but the loneliness still haunted me.

I decided to join a dating site and received a message from Antonio who had lost his wife in a car accident.

Our friendship developed in time and I enjoyed listening to his beautiful voice which made me feel calm.

After 2 months he said he would come down to visit me and I agreed.

He sent me 12 long stemmed roses and I waited for his arrival, but the day before his visit, he phoned to say his worker in Namibia had made a mess of a minister’s suit and had to go there immediately, plus while waiting at the airport the courier company had delivered the new material and had to be paid immediately. He asked me to help until he saw me the next weekend.

I paid the amount and that was the start of these requests to do with his business.

I carried on paying but his visit kept being delayed by problems.

He kept on phoning and texting me and was very considerate and I trusted him.  He got a customer to send me a cheque which I paid into my account and forwarded the money minus what was owed to me to Antonio.

But the cheque then turned out to be stolen and I lost that payment plus the money I had forwarded to Antonio.

He was supposedly on his way to visit me, but contacted me to say he was arrested by the Police for trafficking uncut diamonds. He assured me this was false, but he was in jail with no money and violent guards, so I sent him money to survive and pay off the guards.

I got fed up with this and hired an investigator to see what was going on.

Turns out he has multiple Facebook accounts in different names and spends his time conning lonely women.

I could not get my money back.

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If you have any experiences with these scams do let me know, by email.

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Stupidest Spam of the Week Dating Offer

In the days before Coronavirus and Lockdowns, there was always a great many dating offer emails, text messages, social media messages etc. These aim to entice men into believing that an attractive young woman is interested in them and wants a relationship.

Even with Coronavirus present, these messages still get sent out albeit in a slightly different form.

Travel currently harder because of danger COVID-19 but this is good opportunity to get acquainted online”.

The message has a description of how attractive the non-existent 34 year old blonde woman is and then the qualities she is looking for in a man, including:-

  • Good sense of humour
  • Confidence
  • Likes to surprise
  • Strong character
  • Optimistic
  • Older than 35

These qualities are carefully chosen to pick the men the scammer wants to entice and to enable almost any man to feel he fits those criteria.

e.g. the older than 35 is to try to exclude men who are jobless or unlikely to have sufficient money to be worth conning.

For any man who falls for this con, there are a series of scams this leads into.

The most basic is just to get personal details that can be sold to other criminals. The more advanced scams lead to a series of payments as with standard romance scams or sometimes this leads to full scale identity theft.

Before Coronavirus, the scammers had to think up reasons why they could never meet up in person (that would show that the “attractive blonde woman” is actually a thieving male) but Coronavirus is the perfect excuse – no travel allowed.

If someone you do not know makes such an offer – it’s fake.

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Words With Friends Romance Scam

Words with Friends is a word game for multiple players.  Players take turns building words in a manner similar to the classic board game Scrabble.  But it also has a social media element to it.

Players can trade instant messages with opponents during each match.

This is where scammers want to join in. They typically target older people who may be lonely and ask lots of questions to get to know their victims and build rapport through appearing to be interested, using compliments and discussing their own fabricated life.

One common story is of a man who claims to be a widowed engineer working aboard ships on the high seas. As each match proceeds, the man (often named Owen) shares that his wife had died in childbirth, and that his daughter is being raised by a cousin or a nurse while he worked aboard ship.

Eventually, after months, catastrophe strikes Owen. His daughter needs an operation that costs $20,000, but Owen is stuck aboard a ship of the coast of Turkey, or some other remote place. Owen then asks the woman player for money.

He will bleed the victim of money until she stops paying and he may have numerous victims on the go at any time.

This scam also works with female scammers chasing lonely old men.

Stay safe From Scammers:

  1. Don’t play online games with people you don’t know in real life.
  2. If you do play the game with strangers — then don’t share personal information. The more questions a stranger asks you — the more suspicious you should become.
  3. Change your profile picture to something less likely to attract the attentions of a scammer e.g. a picture of your dog or anyone’s dog rather than you.
  4. Never send money to people you don’t know.
  5. When in doubt: research your opponent to see if they are a real person or just a scammer’s imagination.

If you have any experiences with scammers, spammers or time-wasters do let me know, by email.

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